Is it just me or are we saying sorry a lot more these days? I don’t mean when there is a genuine need to apologise, like, when you bump into a stranger on the street or cause someone to spill their drink or even when you go into your mother’s room and play with her makeup. Those are instances where if you don’t apologise, you’re essentially a douche.
But do you ever find yourself apologising for stupid things? Like your taste in music or food or choice of clothing. It’s become so ridiculous now that I can’t do anything without finding myself needing to apologise for something. For instance, I am constantly apologising for my food preference. My best friend, since she’s the nicer one of the two of us, even apologises for sneezing aside from her food preferences. (What can I say, we like food.) The worst thing, though, is we realise we’re doing it but we can’t help it. It’s become an almost automated response to everything.
Gone are the days when you were allowed to like something just because you liked it or dislike something because it sucked. I feel as though we as a society have become so hyper-aware of hurting anyone’s feelings that we feel the need to justify everything and if we can’t, we apologise. Why? Because it’s the thing to do. Because if you don’t apologise you’re rude and we don’t like rude people.
But, please for a minute, forgive my ignorance and answer me this: why do I have to apologise for my opinions? Even if they aren’t politically correct. I’m sure we all can differentiate between an opinion, derogatory comment or racial slur or a generally assy statement using that magical concept called intent. I find it funny that even amongst friends, a disclaimer before and an apology after an opinion is offered, is pretty standard.
Please don’t get me wrong, there are times and places for hyper-awareness and political correctness. However, my decision to listen to NWA whilst wearing jeans and a sweatshirt that says ‘I’m burdened with glorious purpose’ on a Saturday afternoon in my backyard does not count as the time nor the place. With that in mind, I feel it is time to stop apologising for everything. Stop apologising that you don’t like the colour red or why you like country music or that your hair is purple or that you have tattoos. Don’t apologise for liking unicorns, thinking aliens are real or being a Jedi. Stop saying sorry for still liking comics, preferring Marvel to DC or disliking feminine clothing. Never apologise for being who you are and don’t apologise for not apologising. Instead, be responsible with your opinions. If you are going to share your opinions, educate yourself first.
If you are going to apologise, say sorry to the old lady you bumped into when you were in a rush on the way to school. Apologise to the cashier you were rude to the other day. Say sorry to the little kids you were mean to down the road and you mum for not doing the chores. Apologise to your dad for forgetting his birthday and your sister for stealing her shirt. Say sorry to your grandma for being late for dinner and best friend for your stupid argument.
But these are just my opinions and I will not apologise for having them. I will, however, seek your forgiveness if I was in anyway insensitive and wish you a good day.
Miss Larisha xx